It’s awfully easy to say, “You’re wrong. You’re an idiot. You’re a loser.”
Not all that 
useful, though. Shouting at the guy on the other side (who thinks you’re wrong) isn’t likely to close the gap.
If your only goal is to sound cool to your own team by belittling the losers on the other side, I guess finding clever ways to highlight their mistakes makes sense. Otherwise, it only makes a difficult situation worse.
Here’s an uncomfortable fact: people make decisions for a reason. Folks with similar backgrounds and similar perceived options usually make similar choices. So if you want to know why someone made a particular decision, you must take the time to listen and understand their story.
That’s called empathy. Doesn’t mean you agree, only that you make the effort to understand and communicate your understanding.
There are two ways to close the gap.
The short path of violence. Get a bigger club (physical, economic, verbal, political, social), beat the other guy over the head, and force him to your side. Immediate gratification, almost no opportunity for long-term reconciliation.
The long path of nonviolence. Choose relationship, of empathy, of humility, of service, of love. Little possibility of immediate gratification, the only path to long-term reconciliation.
Jesus spent much of His time with the folks on the other side. They were the losers of His day, and He showed us what might happen when we let go of power and choose empathy and humility.
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