Yesterday I talked about a circle of unconditional respect.
I love this simple notion, which I owe to my friend Eric Larsen. Here’s how I described it to my students.
When you step into the blue circle you agree to acknowledge the basic human dignity of every other person. Since you agree to stay in the circle, you also agree to avoid behaviors like bullying and name-calling which are outside the circle. (Being in the circle was a requirement for my classroom.)
If someone chooses to step outside the “respect” circle it’s a reflection of their behavior, not mine. But I still respect people whether they’re inside or outside the circle.
Respect means adopting some basic behaviors that apply to everyone, things like working together with others and applying the Golden Rule.
There are smaller circles within the “respect” circle. These indicate you won’t be buddies with everyone in the circle. That’s okay. You won’t admire, or trust, or agree with everyone.
Respect, admiration, trust, friendship, and agreement aren’t synonymous. There’s so much misunderstanding about these notions.
I often question or disagree with people I admire and trust. I trust people I don’t necessarily consider friends.
Folks inside the circle don’t need to look, think, or act the same. They don’t need to hold the same beliefs. They need simply to look at every other individual as being entitled to basic human rights.
Respect isn’t about faith, worldview, nationality, race, patriotism, or ideology. Respect is about being human.
What if we all filtered our news sources, Facebook comments, political opinions, and personal conversations based on doing our best to stay in the blue circle?
I think we’d change the world.
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